As I sit in-front of my kitchen table, making rosemary shortbread cookie dough.....I started pondering to myself....does unconditional love exist? Can you truly love someone unconditionally? How does lovers turn into friends? When do we start adding conditions to unconditional love? I used to believe that when you are in a relationship....having each other is enough...you live together, you grow old together, and ultimately, you purse happiness together.
The evolution theory suggests that humans are not meant to be monogamist. We are coded genetically to be polygamist. Males are trying to spread their seeds, whereas females are trying to find multiple providers. Over the years, have we evolved to resist our primordial instincts? But it is important to acknowledge that there are also opposing evolution theories suggesting that monogamy ensures that we passes on our genetics. Theories related to evolution are merely theories. There is no evidence to prove the validity of any of these theories. But we cannot control the feelings we have for others. We are bounded by our surroundings and circumstances. Our emotions ferments and develop over time regardless of how hard we try to control it. We often place ourselves in these furious cycles....tormenting ourselves...perhaps we are trying to remind ourselves of the good times. Without the bad, we will never know how good “good” can be. Perhaps it is the contrast that keeps life intriguing.
I guess there is no real point to this post. I just want to believe that we spend our lifetime searching for a person we are meant to share our lives with...one true soul mate. Of 6.92 billion people on this earth, there has to be a person out there for you. The obstacles we encounter are just an opportunity for growth. Definitely...maybe...
